He began to analyze the teacher's intentions. But the problem is, the daughter does not need the big reason of the father. "She just thinks the teacher is annoying. You don't need to tell her what the teacher thinks." His wife and him had a similar reaction when they complained about setbacks in the workplace. As long as he enters the "Mr. Cai" mode, his wife and daughter will not be able to take it. He reflected on the fact that daughters and mothers are more close, not just because of gender. The father who loves to reason, must learn to listen carefully.
For example, he often couldn't remember the telemarketing list names of friends his daughter said. Who is Megan? Who is Amy? But the wife will open her daughter's IG account and look at the photo to recognize the person. Dad can't remember no matter how much he listens to. After a long time, of course his daughter doesn't bother to speak. "My wife advised me not to preach to my daughter, to listen to her with empathy, and not to jump to conclusions." Cai Shiping believes that fourth- and fifth-grade men are relatively alienated from their parents when they grow up. Out of a compensatory mindset, they care more about their children. However, the shape of the parent-child relationship continues to change as the child ages. Parenting requires the flexibility to adjust so that love can last.
A few days ago, he and his daughter had a cold war due to some minor reasons, and the two did not speak for several days. But this time, Dad didn't talk big anymore. One day on his way to school, he took the initiative to show his kindness and tell his daughter that he was not angry with her. "I'm angry at myself for becoming such a father, so you can't tell me anything." After that, the daughter also changed. She began to be willing to chat with her father, such as discussing the curliness of her hair and the Korean actor she liked recently. Although it is trivial, the progress of the parent-child relationship is enough to make Dad feel gratified. Middle-aged men don't just talk about politics, life has different possibilities.